Breaking Patterns and Building Awareness: How Your Attachment Style Impacts Your Business and Parenting
As therapists, parents, or business owners, we often find ourselves navigating relationships in many forms—whether it’s with our clients, children, or colleagues. But how often do we pause and ask ourselves: How is my attachment style influencing the way I show up?
I recently had the privilege of diving deep into this topic on the Millionaire Mompreneur Podcast with Alexa Starks. Together, we explored how our attachment styles shape not only our relationships but also our parenting and professional lives. It was a conversation filled with personal reflections, actionable insights, and heartfelt realizations.
How Attachment Styles Shape Our Lives
Attachment styles are the patterns we develop early in life based on how our caregivers met (or didn’t meet) our emotional needs. These patterns stay with us, shaping how we connect with others, handle conflict, and even approach work.
In the episode, we discussed how these styles can manifest in everyday life:
In Your Business:
Do you avoid asking for help because you’re afraid of appearing “needy”? (Hello, avoidant attachment!)
Do you find yourself overthinking after every piece of client feedback, wondering if you’re doing enough? (This may point to anxious attachment.)
Do you sometimes feel stuck, conflicted between wanting connection and fearing vulnerability? (That’s disorganized attachment at play.)
In Your Parenting:
Do you notice yourself rushing to “fix” your child’s feelings instead of letting them sit with their emotions?
Do you struggle with setting boundaries because you fear being “the bad guy”?
Are you modeling healthy emotional regulation—or are you unintentionally passing down the patterns you’re trying to break?
Breaking Generational Patterns
One of the most powerful takeaways from this conversation was the reminder that healing is generational work.
As parents and professionals, we have the unique opportunity to break unhelpful patterns and create a new legacy for our children and clients. This starts with self-awareness. By recognizing how our attachment styles influence our actions, we can begin to respond intentionally instead of reacting automatically.
During the episode, we talked about the importance of giving our children the space to process their emotions—without jumping in to solve everything for them. This fosters emotional intelligence and helps them develop a secure attachment style, which will serve them well into adulthood.
Self-Awareness as a Superpower
Healing and growth begin with understanding. In the podcast, I shared a simple yet transformative practice:
Commit to a 5-minute daily check-in with yourself.
Ask yourself:
How am I feeling right now?
What do I need in this moment?
How can I meet that need for myself?
This small habit can have a profound impact on how you show up in your business, your parenting, and your relationships. Self-awareness is like a muscle—the more you use it, the stronger it gets.
A Personal Parenting Moment
During the podcast, I reflected on how my attachment work shows up in my parenting. Recently, my daughter was supposed to take a picture of me and my co-author Jess at a networking brunch. Instead, she took a silly selfie.
At first, I laughed at her playfulness, but then I realized how moments like this reflect the joy and freedom that come from feeling emotionally secure. When we create safe, loving environments for our children, they feel empowered to express themselves—and that’s what secure attachment is all about.
Listen to the Episode
If you’re ready to reflect on your own patterns and explore how your attachment style influences your personal and professional life, this episode is a must-listen.
We covered topics like:
The role of attachment styles in business and parenting
Breaking generational cycles of trauma
Practical self-awareness tips for navigating challenges
I’d love to hear your thoughts after you listen! Where do you see your attachment style showing up most—in your business, your parenting, or somewhere else entirely? Connect with me on Instagram at @TherapistMirandaCampbell.
Closing Thought
As I shared on the podcast, “Your old safety mechanisms served you in the past, but they may no longer serve the life you’re building now. The gift of self-awareness is recognizing when it’s time to let them go.”
Healing is a journey, and I’m grateful to be walking this path alongside all of you. Let’s continue to break patterns, build awareness, and create the lives we deserve.
