As therapists, parents, or business owners, we often find ourselves navigating relationships in many forms—whether it’s with our clients, children, or colleagues. But how often do we pause and ask ourselves: How is my attachment style influencing the way I show up?

I recently had the privilege of diving deep into this topic on the Millionaire Mompreneur Podcast with Alexa Starks. Together, we explored how our attachment styles shape not only our relationships but also our parenting and professional lives. It was a conversation filled with personal reflections, actionable insights, and heartfelt realizations.

We’re thrilled to announce some incredible news: Attachment Style Makeover: A Workbook for Transforming Relationship Patterns has officially become an Amazon Bestseller, ranking #1 in the categories of Inner Child, Couples & Family Therapy,  and Psychotherapy! 🎉

Did you grow up feeling like love and approval were tied to specific roles in your family? For so many of us, especially in BIPOC communities, being a “good daughter” often meant putting others first, while being a “strong son” meant keeping feelings hidden to stay “tough.” These expectations often play out in family dynamics, where cultural beliefs about resilience and family loyalty run deep. While these roles may have been designed to help us survive challenging environments, they can also limit how we connect with family and create lasting effects on our relationships.

As we grow into adulthood, the family roles we learned can be difficult to unlearn. But when we start to examine these patterns, we can create space for healthier, more secure attachments that balance love with our own well-being.

November is Men’s Health Month, an invitation for us all to take a closer look at how we can support the men in our lives on their health and healing journeys. Men often face unique challenges when it comes to mental and emotional health, especially due to societal expectations around masculinity. As an attachment trauma therapist, I’ve seen how critical it is for men to feel connected and understood by the people around them. This month, let’s explore meaningful ways you can show up for fathers, brothers, partners, friends, and colleagues in ways that honor their experiences and foster secure, healthy relationships.

October marks Domestic Violence Awareness Month, a time dedicated to raising awareness, supporting survivors, and deepening our understanding of the complex factors surrounding intimate partner violence (IPV). While domestic violence affects people across all backgrounds, understanding how attachment styles influence relationships can shed light on why some individuals might be at greater risk of becoming involved in toxic or abusive dynamics—and how survivors can move toward healing.

If you’re a fan of Love is Blind, you know the premise: singles search for true love without ever laying eyes on each other. By getting to know someone deeply, they form connections built solely on conversation, chemistry, and emotional compatibility. But with attachment styles shaping so much of how we relate to others, it raises a fascinating question: Could attachment styles be influencing how these couples bond in the pods?

We often think of attachment trauma as something that affects our personal relationships, but what happens when it shows up at work? The workplace is a social environment, filled with hierarchies, expectations, and relationships that can trigger old wounds in unexpected ways. If you’ve ever found yourself feeling undervalued, anxious about feedback, or struggling with conflict at work, your attachment history may be at play.

In this post, we’ll explore how attachment trauma can manifest in professional settings and provide practical steps to navigate the workplace with more confidence and emotional resilience.

When people think about attachment trauma, the focus often lands on romantic relationships or family dynamics. But what about friendships? Friendships play a huge role in our emotional lives, and they can become both a source of comfort and a trigger for unresolved attachment wounds.

Parenting is often a mirror reflecting the unresolved parts of ourselves. For those with attachment trauma, this reflection can feel painful, triggering emotional patterns from our own childhood. The way we bond with our children is largely informed by the way we were taught to attach as children ourselves. But it’s possible to break these cycles and create secure, healthy attachments with our kids—even if we didn’t experience them growing up.