Healing from Attachment Trauma

You are a high-achieving, self-aware individual who has accomplished much in life but still feels disconnected, insecure, or anxious in your relationships.

Maybe you're successful in your career, have a well-curated life, or even surrounded by friends, but deep down, you struggle with a lingering sense of insecurity when it comes to emotional intimacy. You may notice patterns like:

  • Fear of abandonment or being too “needy”

  • Choosing emotionally unavailable partners or avoiding vulnerability

  • Over-functioning in relationships to feel worthy of love

  • Difficulty trusting others or expressing your own needs

  • Feeling an internal emptiness or longing that’s hard to explain

You’ve tried self-help books, listened to podcasts, and have even dabbled in therapy before—but nothing has addressed the root of your emotional pain. You know there's more to unpack, more to heal, and you're ready for deep, transformative work that goes beyond the surface. You value high-quality, personalized support and are ready to invest in a premium therapeutic approach to break free from the patterns that no longer serve you.

About The Problem: Attachment Trauma

The attachment wounds you carry are deeply impacting your relationships—and your life.

Attachment trauma often originates in childhood relationships where your emotional needs weren’t met. It could stem from neglect, emotional unavailability, or inconsistent caregiving. These early experiences created an emotional blueprint that still shapes how you relate to others today.

This can lead to:

  • Hyper-vigilance in relationships (constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop)

  • Feeling chronically insecure or anxious, no matter how much reassurance you receive

  • Repeatedly ending up in unhealthy relationships or avoiding commitment

  • Difficulty regulating emotions when things go wrong in relationships

The Solution: A Blend of Evidence-Based Therapies

  • Attachment Based Therapy

    Attachment-based therapy allows us to directly explore how your early attachment relationships are shaping your current relational patterns. Together, we’ll look at the roots of your attachment style—whether it's anxious, avoidant, or disorganized—and work to heal these patterns. The goal is to move you towards secure attachment, where you feel safe, seen, and valued in relationships.

  • Brainspotting

    Brainspotting is a cutting-edge therapeutic technique that allows us to access and process trauma stored deep within the brain and body. Unlike traditional talk therapy, Brainspotting helps you bypass your cognitive defenses and reach the core emotional wounds beneath the surface. Together, we’ll target these unresolved traumas, allowing you to release the emotional charge and rewire your brain for healthier attachment patterns.

  • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)

    CBT is an evidence-based approach that helps you identify and challenge negative thought patterns that drive your emotional pain. By recognizing and reworking your unhelpful thinking, you can start to shift how you feel and behave in relationships. We'll use CBT to address the thoughts that keep you stuck in unhealthy attachment cycles, helping you cultivate a sense of security and trust within yourself.

  • Narrative Therapy

    Your story matters—and narrative therapy helps you rewrite it. Attachment trauma often leaves us with disempowering beliefs about ourselves (e.g., “I’m unlovable” or “I don’t deserve stable relationships”). In our work together, we’ll explore the story you’ve been telling yourself about your past, identify the harmful narratives, and reshape them in a way that empowers you to step into healthier relational patterns.

The Result

When you heal your attachment wounds:

  • You’ll feel more secure and confident in relationships.

  • You’ll learn to trust others and yourself.

  • You’ll be able to set healthy boundaries and communicate your needs.

  • You’ll experience deeper, more meaningful connections with those around you.

However, if you continue without addressing your attachment trauma:

  • The patterns of insecurity and disconnection will persist.

  • Unresolved trauma may keep you from forming the deep connections you crave.

  • You may continue to feel stuck in unhealthy relationship cycles.

From Wounded to Secure: A New Chapter in Your Relationships

Imagine a life where you no longer feel anxious, insecure, or disconnected in your relationships. Instead, you trust in the love and connection you deserve, feeling confident in your ability to give and receive emotional intimacy. With expert guidance and the right tools, this transformation is not only possible—it’s within reach.

How we’ll work together

  1. Book a Complimentary Consultation: This 15-minute consultation is an opportunity to share your challenges, ask questions, and explore if this premium therapeutic approach is the right fit for you.

  2. Engage in Intensive, Personalized Therapy Sessions: In each session, we’ll use an integrative approach (Brainspotting, narrative therapy, CBT, and attachment therapy) tailored to your specific needs and goals.

  3. Transform Your Relationships and Sense of Self: With each session, you’ll experience deeper emotional healing, greater self-awareness, and the ability to cultivate healthier, more secure relationships.

Areas Attachment Trauma Show Up

Caregiver Fatigue

    • Unprepared to begin caring for aging parents, a sick spouse/partner, or adult child

    • Like you're always taking care of everyone else

    • You never have time for yourself

    • Stuck between choosing whose needs to prioritize

    • Guilty when you do something for yourself

    • Unappreciated

  • When you’re the one everyone relies on, it’s easy to feel exhausted, frustrated, and stuck in a cycle of giving until there’s nothing left. We’ll find ways to reclaim your energy, set healthy boundaries, and create space for your needs so you don’t feel burnt out all the time.

  • Caring for others can trigger old wounds—especially if you grew up in an environment where your emotional needs weren't met or you were conditioned to suppress them. Attachment trauma can heighten the weight of caregiving, making it even harder to set boundaries or ask for help. You may feel an overwhelming sense of responsibility, fearing that if you don't take care of everyone else, you'll be abandoned, judged, or seen as selfish. This can lead to burnout and resentment, even while your compassionate nature pushes you to keep going.

    If you’ve experienced attachment trauma, caregiving may reinforce old patterns of self-sacrifice and emotional exhaustion. Together, we'll explore ways to break this cycle by healing those wounds, understanding your worth, and finding balance so that caring for others doesn't come at the cost of yourself.

Depression & Anxiety

    • Feeling overwhelmed, hopeless, or stuck

    • Difficulty focusing or finding motivation

    • Constant worry, irritability, or restlessness

  • Depression and anxiety can feel like you’re carrying a weight you can’t shake, keeping you from enjoying your life and reaching your potential. We’ll work together to understand the root causes, manage the symptoms, and help you regain control so you can start feeling more like yourself again.

  • Depression and anxiety can sometimes be rooted in unresolved attachment wounds from childhood or past relationships. If your emotional needs weren’t consistently met, you may have learned to expect disconnection, abandonment, or rejection from others, which can fuel chronic feelings of worthlessness, overwhelm, or fear. These patterns can follow you into adulthood, intensifying the anxiety you feel about relationships, work, or even just day-to-day life. It’s like carrying around an invisible weight you can’t set down.

    Attachment trauma can make it harder to trust yourself, others, and the world around you. You might feel like you're stuck in a cycle of worrying or shutting down, struggling to focus or find motivation, or feeling like you’re always on edge. Together, we’ll unpack these deep-rooted patterns, addressing the fears and beliefs that keep you feeling stuck, so you can start to experience more calm, confidence, and connection in your life.

Eating & Body Image

    • Feeling shame or guilt around eating

    • Constantly criticizing your appearance

    • Overeating, restricting, or bingeing to manage emotions

  • Struggles with eating and body image can feel like a constant battle between how you see yourself and how you want to feel in your skin. We’ll explore the underlying thoughts and emotions that fuel these struggles and help you move toward a healthier, more compassionate relationship with your body.

  • Struggles with eating and body image often run deeper than what we see in the mirror. For many, attachment trauma plays a significant role in shaping how we relate to food and our bodies. If you grew up feeling emotionally neglected or criticized, you may have internalized the belief that you weren’t “enough”—not good enough, not thin enough, not lovable enough. Food can become a way to cope with these painful feelings, whether through restricting, bingeing, or overeating, while body criticism may serve as a way to control or express unresolved pain.

    Attachment wounds can make it harder to develop a healthy, nurturing relationship with yourself and your body. You may find yourself stuck in cycles of guilt, shame, or emotional eating, as old beliefs around worth and acceptance continue to play out. Together, we’ll uncover how these patterns are connected to your early experiences, and work to heal those wounds so you can begin to show yourself the compassion, care, and respect you deserve—both in how you nourish your body and how you speak to yourself.

Grief

    • Overwhelmed by sadness or numbness

    • Struggling to accept the loss or find closure

    • Feeling stuck in sorrow and unsure how to heal

  • Grief isn’t just about losing a loved one—it’s also the loss of dreams, expectations, or the life you thought you’d have. I’ll help you process these heavy emotions and find a way to honor your pain while moving toward healing and a renewed sense of purpose.

  • Grief is never easy, but when attachment trauma is part of the picture, it can feel even more overwhelming. Losing a loved one, a relationship, or even a dream can stir up old wounds of abandonment, rejection, or unmet needs. If your early attachments were insecure or unstable, grief may bring a sense of profound loneliness, as if you're reliving the pain of being emotionally unsupported all over again. You might feel stuck, unable to move through your sorrow, or struggle to find closure.

    Grief isn't just about losing someone—it’s also about the loss of dreams, the future you imagined, or the version of yourself you hoped to become. Attachment trauma can make it harder to accept these losses, leaving you feeling numb, detached, or like you're drowning in sadness with no clear path forward. Together, we’ll explore the layers of your grief, how it connects to past experiences, and work toward honoring your pain while also finding space for healing and renewal.

Postpartum

    • Feeling anxious, irritable, or overwhelmed

    • Struggling with mood swings or feelings of isolation

    • Difficulty bonding with your baby or adjusting to motherhood

  • Postpartum challenges can make you feel like you’re losing yourself in the overwhelming demands of being a new parent. We’ll navigate the mix of emotions, from anxiety and sadness to exhaustion, helping you find balance, confidence, and joy in this new chapter.

  • Becoming a parent is a huge life transition, and for those with a history of attachment trauma, the postpartum period can feel even more overwhelming. If you grew up in an environment where your emotional needs weren’t met or were dismissed, motherhood might bring up old feelings of insecurity or fear. You may find it hard to trust yourself as a parent, struggle with bonding with your baby, or feel isolated as those past wounds resurface. These feelings can make you question your abilities, leaving you anxious, irritable, or disconnected.

    Postpartum challenges are hard enough on their own, but unresolved attachment trauma can deepen feelings of isolation or overwhelm. You might feel like you're losing yourself in the demands of new parenthood, unsure of how to manage the intense emotions or find joy in this new chapter. Together, we’ll explore these layers—working through the emotional triggers from your past while helping you build confidence, reconnect with yourself, and find balance as you adjust to life as a new parent.

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